Becoming a Young Mom (Sort Of)

When I got pregnant at 25, my friends and I used to joke that it was basically teenage pregnancy—because let’s be honest, by today’s standards, it kind of felt like it. At the time, I was the first in my circle of girlfriends to have a baby, and even though I had support, I felt alone in a lot of ways.

No one else was going through it with me, so I didn’t have that “me too” friend to text about midnight feedings or postpartum emotions. Once Noey was born, my life changed in the most beautiful way—but also in some really tough ways.

Suddenly, things like spontaneous Friday nights out, Saturday hikes, or lazy Sunday brunches were off the table. I had a whole new rhythm to adjust to, and it was hard not to feel left out. But over time, I found ways to build a new kind of connection—one that still included my friends and also welcomed my new identity as a mom.

Tips for Staying Connected (Without Losing Yourself)

If you’re the first in your group to have a baby—or just feeling isolated—these small steps helped me feel less alone:

• Join a local playgroup – You’ll meet other parents in your area and create new friendships organically.

• Find an online community – Whether it’s a Facebook group or a parenting app, there’s comfort in hearing “same here.”

• Join a group fitness class – Trust me, there are always other moms there looking for community (and endorphins).

• Reconnect with family – Sometimes the support you need is already around you—lean into it.

• Try kid-friendly activities with friends – Walks, coffee at home, or a park hang can be fun for everyone.

• Park dates are underrated – Fresh air, kids playing, and adult conversation? Yes please.

• Invite friends over for coffee – It’s simple, but it helps keep those bonds strong—and lets them get to know your little one too.

It’s okay if your social life doesn’t look the same—and it’s okay to miss it. Becoming a mom doesn’t mean leaving your old self behind. It just means finding new ways to bring her along for the ride.